Seeing each other versus dating
But if the two of you want different things, you should reevaluate your relationship -- whatever that term means for you. You don't just meet someone and automatically become their significant other. In fact, there is a big difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, though sometimes, it can be hard to identify. You'll go on a first date, and if there's chemistry, you'll go on more.Aside from asking directly where you stand, there is no foolproof way to tell.Actually, I'm pretty sure even asking directly isn't foolproof.If you're going on dates regularly and making time for each other, it's a good sign that things are progressing toward an official relationship.By regularly, I mean once or twice a week with actual communication in between.However, your partner might have a few people on the back burner just in case things don't work out, and so may you.
If you're texting until 1 AM every day or you feel weird if you go half a day without a message, then it's pretty obvious you're into each other. If you need to ask because you truly don't know what he thinks or whether he's that into you, then we're sorry to say that he probably isn't. If you're asking because you really feel like you're both on the same page, things are going great, and you both want to move things along but neither of you is brave enough to broach the subject, then go for it!
If he only hits you up on a Saturday night at 2 AM and wants you to come over, it doesn't count. He'll call on Wednesday to ask if you're free on Saturday, not shoot you a message at 8 PM to see if you want to get a beer because he doesn't have anything better to do.
If you're just a hookup or he isn't interested in pursuing anything serious, you probably won't even meet the friends, let alone the family. He probably doesn't want to tell his parents you two are just having casual sex. He's not keeping his options open: He wants to see YOU.
I suggest the “I picked up this/made you that/did that thing because I'm such a good girlfriend” line, said in a super casual way, obvs.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter where you stand, as long as it's a place you're happy to be.
Sometimes he might just need a little push or sign from you that you're as into him as he's into you.