Dating eccentric guy
But few celeb men are out as bi—and you never see two guys making out in a bar to get women to pay attention.Plus, I must admit I wondered whether all the stuff people say about bisexuals might actually turn out to be true—that they're untrustworthy, just going through a phase, or slutty; that they'll break your heart or give you STDs and probably cooties too.If he happens to be into guys too, well…we only have more in common! I don't think we're any more open-minded than most couples—but the amount of honesty required at the beginning of our relationship has served us well. "If I were a woman involved with a bisexual man," says Savin-Williams, "I would have very honest communication with him about what he means when he uses the term." Trust me, I asked Neal a lot of questions about what he was into and what to expect as our relationship deepened. On the other hand, if he says he wants than a fantasy when it comes to men…then he might not be the guy for you."__Neal assuaged my anxieties by being so enthusiastic about me that I had no reason to doubt his attraction. He realized he was bisexual when he was 20, and he still considers himself attracted to both sexes, at a ratio of about , women to men. No matter whom you're dating, part of love is taking that leap into the unknown.In fact, he seemed more comfortable with my body than plenty of straight men I'd dated had been.
They'd already seen him with men and with women, and we run with a pretty arty crowd. As the years passed, I saw that Neal had more integrity and self-knowledge than anyone I'd ever known. We've been together and monogamous for 12 years, married for eight. He's "straightish," in the terminology of a gay friend of ours. He is a performance artist, eccentric, and has—true to stereotype—better style than I do. Early on, Neal confessed that he had a crush on someone else. It depends on the values of the person, and the strength of commitment, and whether both partners work hard at it." Good advice for any couple, even a straight-as-an-arrow one.
So while I was attracted to him, I figured he would just be my gay best friend.
Then, one night, we wound up in bed together, and let's just say that he did not act like a gay best friend usually acts.
What many women struggle with is not the fear that a guy is bi but the fear that he's bi and will eventually identify as gay.
It's not a weird thing to worry about (I worried about it! "Before homosexuality was as accepted as it is now," says Allen Rosenthal, a researcher at Northwestern University, "homosexual men often identified as bi in the process of coming out, like getting their feet wet. The results:__I'd have a lot of questions,but maybe.……………………………16%No way.………………………………..36%Totally, why not?
Since his divorce he'd mostly dated men, so he'd gone with "gay" over "bi" when we met, but deep down that's what he is: bisexual.